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Dealing With Relationships

We play the major role of complicating relationships and we end up confused; without an answer. For you to deal with relationships effectively, you have to start even before you get into one. Make up your mind that drama is not for you and, you will be the master of your destiny. Drama is the keyword when it comes to most problematic relationships. In a bid to outdo each other, you end up hurting the person you love and, you can never agree to work things out. First, it is paramount to know why you want to enter in a relationship in the first place. There are many people who have opted to remain single and they experience unimaginable peace. However, most of us will not have the endurance to be happy on our own therefore, for the purpose of companionship, we enter into relationships.

This is a good reason to enter into a marital or long term relationship. I say it is good because there are people who continue to enter into relationships with reasons that are not good enough. For example, if you are a material girl, it is in order for you to consider your financial stability before all things. You will be tempted to enter into marriage for the sole purpose of financial security. Everyone has the right to enter into relationships for the reasons that suit them but, if you are one of those people who are too material, you are likely to have a harder time dealing with relationships. At the end of the day, all you really want is peace of mind because this is the basis of all happiness. Therefore, if you can, do not enter into a marriage for reasons other than true need for companionship. Dealing with relationships that are mutual is not a piece of cake and, if your union is built on the wrong foundation, it is just a matter of time before you find yourself picking the pieces.

Dealing with relationships that are bad is very much possible. When you find that they joy that you once knew is gone, it is not time to count all the flaws and evils your partner has, you need to sit down with a calm objective mind and look for solutions. This will avoid lots of drama. In many instances, where things turn nasty, partners have not humbled themselves enough. Be the big man or woman and try to reason with your spouse. If you are no longer willing to perch things up, there is no reason why you should withstand an unhappy union; you have an option. You need to realize that life is short and you might waste all your life doing damage control when you should be progressing in all aspects of your life.

 

Men Dump Women – Myths And Facts

Nagging

While many surveys have shown that women think nagging is one of the primary reason why men dump women the fact is not so. Men may feel irritated by nagging but nagging can never be the real reason for someone to dump a women. Rather nagging is just a result of some other core issues.

Pressure of Commitment

One of the most dreaded reasons for this is the pressure of commitment. When to look for commitment from a man is a very tricky issue as far as women are concerned. The best is to take the relationship ahead step by step and let the feelings and issues settle by themselves. If you are too early in demanding commitment, it may scare the guy off.

Needy

This may turn out to be a reason why men dump women. If you cannot take care of yourself without him how would he think you can take care of him when he needs you the most. Men look for women who can support them when they need it and women who are self assured and confident in life do get more respect and love from their men.

Overbearing

Women need to understand that a man is not looking for a second mother when he thinks of a woman in his life. If he could come this far without your strict control on him he can do so even when you have come into his life. No man likes a tight leash around his neck. Give him the freedom he deserves and don’t try and meddle too much in his life. A big reason for why men dump their women is because the women are too overbearing on them.

Physique

How a woman looks does not really contribute to why men dump women. That could be an issue for a teenager but not for men who understand the value of relationships. A man will loves you for who you are and will not be an issue if you were to put on a little weight. However, it is good for women to try and be as beautiful and attractive as possible for the men because this gives the men a feeling that you really desire to be with him but it surely doesn’t mean only your appearance would matter in keeping him with you.

 

Why Younger Men Like Older Women?

1. Attraction

While some may find it odd that a young man surrounded by girls his age would find an older woman attractive. The answer is quite simple. Many of them are attractive.

While the media and fashion world may continue to hold up the twenty something girl as the standard of beauty, it has already dawned on many young guys that the bandwidth they are using is way too narrow and has been for years. Sometimes a woman in her twenties is just so-so when it comes to looks but for whatever reason blossoms into a real beauty when she gets older.

2. Maturity

At times, the communication younger men are looking for requires something a little deeper than what ladies in his age range may be able to provide. This is not meant as a stereotype for all younger women; particularly since girls mature faster than boys in most instances.

Yet older women by default bring more life experiences into the relationship. Being with someone who has been there and done that, yet at the same time can nurture the growth of their partner without trying to be in command of the relationship can be an exhilarating ride.

3. Comfort

No matter how society today forces young people to grow up fast, there is still a lot they do not know. Combining that with peer pressure can really ratchet up the stress level. This rings especially true when it comes to intimacy. You are supposed to know what to do but you don’t because you may not have much understanding in knowing exactly what you are supposed to do.

This is another area where the life experiences of an older woman can be a major benefit. It’s not that you want to be treated like someone who just fell off the turnip truck or even that you need someone to “take control.” But using their experience to establish a comfort level can be a real ego booster for both parties.

There are probably an almost unlimited number of reasons why an older woman and younger man decide to have a relationship. The thing to remember is they are more than likely the same reasons older men go with younger women or for that matter a relationship between two people who are identical in age.

 

Best Relationships For Couples Tips

In relationships for couples, you must have heard couples saying that they are drifting away from each other yet they sleep in the same bed. Emotional unity and togetherness is going to come about when you follow the above tip. Making the best out of your relationship is not easy yet, with the right mindset, you can do all you want. Let your mindset be anchored on a positivist attitude. Many couples due to strife change their attitude slowly and after 10 years of marriage, they are just surviving in the marriage. This is a poor attitude and, you can avoid this by always speaking your mind. In marriage, some people never have a voice and they simply go along with whatever that will please their spouses. Men are known to be like this because they like to avoid arguments. You are doing yourself a disservice when you go along with things all the time. Over time, you may not find any real joy to be in a marriage. Therefore, all couples need to realize that their spouses are not little children; let them speak up and choose what they like. This way, you will not be suffocated in marriage. Relationships for couples need to be based on mutual respect and sensitivity for the needs of each other.

Relationships for couples need to be sparked with fun for them to be excellent. Many people got married to monotony and boredom. If your union is like this, you need to lay the blame squarely on you. A boring marriage is composed of a boring couple. You need to spark excitement in all aspects of your union. Do something radical for once, and remind yourself that you are still alive in marriage. Run away together for a couple of days. It never hurts to act childish when it comes to matters of the heart. Retrace your steps to when you first met and get to know each other all over again. As a woman, look for different clothes to wear that will make your husband notice you. As a man, you also need to step up and do something different. Sometimes, it is not always easy to maintain relationships for couples but, if you have the will, you will certainly find the way.

 

Jealousy In Relationships

Jealousy in relationships is a strong emotion that comes to a person to show some form of fear. This may be fear of losing love, fear of being abandoned, fear of being dishonored, and fear of public shame and so on. This fear is as real as you can have it. Apart from fear, there are so many other reasons why jealousy is rampant in society. Unresolved issues from relationships of the past will make an individual harbor feeling of jealousy in their present union. Low self esteem is another thing that will see people getting jealous for no particular reason also, when you are hiding something, you might be very suspicious of your partner and you are bound to get jealous at many instances. Hate for a particular person may cause jealousy. For example, as a wife, if there is a girl you are not fond of, you might get jealous when they start being friendly to your man. Jealousy can act as a mechanism for defending yourself against key people that may bring your union down. However, it is vital for you to know how to deal with it.

When it comes to jealousy in relationships, you need to understand the various categories of jealousy. There is jealousy that is can be referred to as cute. This is a light form of jealousy that is meant to flatter your mate. It is common and is is mainly acceptable and, there is not much negativity about it. There is also healthy jealousy in relationships. This is one where there is good enough reason to be worried about jealousy. For example, when your husband is constantly going out with female friends, you have a right to be legitimately worried and jealous. The other kind of jealousy is obsessive jealousy. This is one that can be termed as an extreme form of jealousy. It weighs on a relationship because it gets to a place where your spouse is verbally and physically abusive when you talk to a person of the opposite sex. In jealousy that is obsessive, couples are even wary of friends that are not of the opposite sex. This is definitely too much and in many cases, one partner is sick and they might need professional help.

Once you have understood why jealousy in relationships is common, it is vital to look at how you can remedy your problem. First, you have to identify that you have a problem and, when you find yourself too obsessive, you need to look back and know exactly why your jealousy emotions are very strong. Knowing your source of jealousy will provide keys to dealing with your emotions. Jealousy is dangerous if you do not deal with it effectively. Many people have killed their spouses of the issues and, you do not want to reach this stage. It is not worth taking somebody’s life for jealousy. This is mainly you are likely to suffer more in the aftermath.

 

Why Keep No Contact Rule?

For starters, you keep from causing more damage to the already emotional breakup. Breakups are usually very hard to deal with when both parties are still feeling the anger and bitterness. If you have to speak with the person, it’s hard to deal with the emotions that you need to deal with. You may say or do things that you’ll regret later on.

By seeing your ex continuously, you are prone to make even bigger mistakes including desperate behaviors such as drunken dialing and text message terrorism. Be sure that you have little to no contact with your ex after your breakup. If you have to see or talk to them because of work or other reasons, be civil and kind but do not get personal with them.

When you don’t speak to one another, you are actually helping to deal with the already messy emotions. You aren’t constantly in one another’s face which means you can work on your own personal matters. When you do this, a reunion can go much smoother. This helps if this is your ultimate goal.

When you and your ex have had this time apart and have worked on your own personal demons, when you see each other next, you can deal with those issues when both of you have cool down. This is a benefit to the no contact rule. When you don’t have to see each other, you can plan how you will get your ex back. This also gives your ex some time to realize how much they miss you being in their lives. In the long run, it is a win/win situation. They won’t feel that they miss you if you never left.

As you see, this no contact rule is vital to the success of getting your ex back. It can be hard to win back your ex if you don’t leave him or her to sort through their feelings for you. You must also sort through yours. You may also be shocked to learn how you actually feel about them during this month away.

 

Things to Do When There Is No Romance In Relationships

For all genuine relationships to kick off there is romance involved and, it is until later in the relationship that the romance is lost. Many people who are serious do not get up and leave. There are very many people who loose the romance and, you are not the only one. Relationships and more so marriage is a long journey that will inform you that romance is hard work. It is something that you need to revitalize and do often. There are several things that you can do to bring back the love that was once felt. The first thing is to find out whether there is a problem. This is because strife and romance cannot exist together. You need to find out what you did or what your partner did to bring you to that dry status. There are very many causes of disagreements and, funny enough, one partner might not be aware of the problem.

Burying your head in the sand will not do you any good. You need to identify your problem so that you can deal with it. You will have to sit down with your partner and, in a calm manner, try to solve your problems. If there is absolutely no romance in your relationship, take all the time you need. While talking, you need to have an open mind and be ready to forgive. Having good will in a relationship is all that matters. This way, you will be willing to do anything to make things right. Honesty will be the best policy and, there is nothing more essential than this. You will get to examine your heart and give all you have in this regard. To deal with a state of no romance, it is crucial to make it a priority. This is because many people who are breaking up today, no longer have the good will to deal with problems in their marriage. Go back to the beginning of your relationship and try to recapture that love. You do not have to pretend but, you can learn to recreate it. Sometimes, people will find a love that is even greater than the one present in the beginning.

Once you have settled your problems, the issue of no romance has been halved. If you are on a similar page with your spouse, you will begin to talk. Talk is essential in romance. Not just the usual talk but, the talk that comes from the heart. When a man and a woman who love each other talk, there is a sense of magic that brings harmony to them. This is only the beginning. Give yourself to romance as well as to your spouse, nature will take its course. Make sure that you resolve your troubles once they have occurred. Pilling up problems and unresolved issues is the killer in most relationships. Nobody is perfect and losing romance is not a problem unique to you. It is the willingness to recapture love that counts. Take time to be alone with the person you love. This way, you will show the world what really matters to you. Make your spouse feel special and, you will always get back the romance.

 

Why You Do Not Want Your Ex Back?

1. The Changes

It’s all well and good for you to change your ways or perspective but what about your ex? Did they actually say if you change this, that or the other thing about yourself they will return? Even if they did, for things to truly work your ex has to undergo a little transformation also. Are they willing to do that?

2. Complete the Voyage?

Once you start to make the changes you have to keep at it. You may decide half way through the journey that you are not that bad. Sure you want your ex back but for the most part you like who you are. You don’t want to change that much.

3. Walking In Circles

Even with the new attitude and willingness on both sides to make a clean start, in essence you are going over the same ground. You and your ex may add some fresh new touches to the relationship but consider the fact that a lot of the dynamics are already in place. It may not be long before you both find yourself back in the same old situation no matter how hard you tried (or pretended) to give it a different slant.

4. The Big Big World

Look it was wonderful while it lasted but even when trying to get your ex back, the thought will probably cross your mind on occasion that maybe there is someone new out there who you can connect with ten times better than you ever did with your ex. Anything is possible. When times were good you and your ex clicked but who’s to say you cannot find that with someone else? Sometimes the only reason people want their ex back is they fear the unknown.

Why Forget Your Ex?

# Mental Health

You will definitely loose your mental poise as constant thoughts about your ex keep haunting you. Mental peace is very important in a man’s life and someone who looses it will be distracted and will not be able to concentrate on any other activities thus forget your ex to get back your mental balance.

# Productivity

Thoughts of your ex are like a computer virus. It will not allow you to perform your normal functions and disrupt your whole personal, social and business well being. Your creativity and productivity will suffer and will be stranded in life unable to work, sleep or even smile.

# Bad Motivation Strategy

Constant thoughts about your ex is a bad motivation strategy as these thoughts only increase the negativity and stops all positive thoughts and actions in one’s life. Moving forward and away from the past is the best motivation which will benefit you and your purpose in life. Think ahead of a much more fruitful relationship rather than brooding on the past breakup.

# To Be Happy

Serotonin a chemical is secreted every time you lodge good thoughts in your mind. Remembering the best moments in life and always finding ways to keep oneself happy can be highly beneficial to the overall health. After all we all strive and work hard to make ourselves and our family happy.

# To Avoid Depressing and Frustrating Thoughts

Depression and frustration can prove to be very dangerous over a period of time. When you constantly think about your ex you feel more depressed and frustrated thinking about what happened. Depression can take a toll on one’s physical condition too if not treated in time. Many physical ailments find their roots in psychological factors in a man’s life. Suicidal tendency might also arise and many might even want to go back home without much treatment.

When you constantly think about your ex you shun all others who are interested to share their lives with you. It reduces the opportunity to meet new people and finding new and better love. Brooding over spoilt milk will never get you anywhere in life. Stop worrying start thinking positively and don’t ever compromise on your self esteem. Forget your ex is what you’ll need now. But try to reason out the advantages on loosing this relationship. Think ahead and always stay positive.

 

Tips to Forget an Ex Girlfriend

This seems like a million dollar question as the man who was totally dependant on the girl feels great pain and is totally lost. Let’s try to analyze this situation a little deeper. So your girl friend left and isn’t bothered about how you feel or what you do without her. But you feel unhappy, depressed and feel that your life stopped without her. Your whole world revolved around her and now it stopped.

The problem basically is with you as you are not able to cope with the situation you find yourself in. In fact no body can ever fill up the void in your life. You felt wonderful being with a woman as she filled up the neediness in you. So when you lose her you feel empty and unneeded.

Stop depending on others to make you feel good and happy. Happiness is in you rather than in women you date. Inner happiness is a strong media which helps balance your life in all situations. Don’t expect others to approve you and stop looking for comfort in others or in a relationship. Control your life by controlling your thoughts and actions. Take charge of your life by turning away from things or people who don’t need you or feel like being with you. When they don’t need you, decide to shut them off from your life too.

You are more important than your ex and so take care of what you do and how you feel rather than think and act according to your ex. Rather than pondering on ‘how to forget an ex girl friend?’ Think about ‘how to get another girl friend?’ take life lightly don’t be serious about what has already happened. Bring the affirmation into your mind that she is no more and try to shake yourself off her memory and start looking around for the best person yet to enter your life. Move on in life and don’t rot and stale by sticking to your girl friends memories.

Guide to Forget Your Ex Fast

Any experience which gives you pleasure or left an impression in your mind stays as a memory and you can recall them as and when you need to relive those moments. So drop the basic idea that you can forget your ex so easily. Next think of how to change your attitude regarding your ex as that will help you accept and shift your thoughts to more fruitful and positive living. But if you are lost or cannot think of anything positive when you are hurt to the core we are glad to offer some valuable tips and ideas to help you through hard times.

First bring about a conviction in your mind that you cannot forget your ex as much as you cannot forget the happy moments you shared together. Secondly analyze why you want to forget your ex. You might find 101 reasons like getting back your peace of mind or getting rid of the frustration or depression etc. identifying the goal which you wish to achieve on forgetting your ex will give you a focus of what you want to achieve. You can work on attaining this goal through other means which will give you a total satisfaction and relive you from remorse.

Try shifting your focus from the past events and start thinking of beautiful things like a clear blue sky or a wide ocean etc. this will change the way you feel as thoughts affect our feelings. When you shift the thoughts to more positive things you will start feeling very positive in life and this is a magic wand which can transform your whole life.

Even scientifically your brain will release chemicals whenever you think and so the way you think will directly be responsible for the type of chemical released in your brain which directly affects the way you think and act. Come to accept that your relationship is over and don’t ever brood or feel gloomy of something which is past history. Look forward and start reliving your life once again free from any bonding or emotional hang-ups. How to forget your ex thus depends on the right attitude you take and the positive thoughts you possess. Decide to have an independent trouble free peaceful life now and see the change blooming around you to make you feel the way you want.